Help Your Unheard Self Be Heard

How often do you really hear what you’re saying to yourself? Have you ever thought about helping your unheard self be hear? “I can hear myself just fine thank you.  I hear myself all day long chattering away to myself in the background.”   Yo...

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Organising The Chaos Of Stress

Organising the chaos of stress is a fabulous skill to have but does this come from nature or nurture?  Life can be running along smoothly, everything is under control and your managing life beautifully, organising the little bits of chaos easily one at a time.  ...

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Why Stress When You Can Have Something So Much Better

Why stress when you can have something so much better?As a Lifestyle Change and Stress Relief Expert, people ask me, “Why Stress Relief Awareness Days?”There are two answers to this. The first one is the quickest so I will start with that one.Last August someone said to ...

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Opening The Doors To Your Emotions

In my last blog post, I talked about how emotions are formed and how we can connect with them. There are always going to be times when our emotions are triggered quite unexpectedly and the only way to manage them is to let them flow. Some people are afraid to allow themselve...

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Only One Week Till Christmas

Only a week till Christmas and I hope you’ve nearly finalised all your arrangements. We can plan, prepare and think we have everything in place ready for a great season of good will to all men. A merry, merry Christmas I just wanted to share something with you. I...

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The Breathing Secret

Breathing?What’s so secret about that, you might be thinking, I do it automatically?Yes, we do, and as you know, our breathing alters when we’re asleep and during exercise.  Our breathing also alters when we are anxious, frightened, excited and during periods of concen...

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Quick Fix Holidays To Beat The Stress

How many times have you been tempted to book a holiday because you’re feeling ‘so stressed’? We all need a break, a chance to put ourselves in a different environment, unwind, relax, have fun, and see new and exciting things.  We are all guilty of th...

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The Parental Survival Guide To Exam Fever

Yes, the last year has gone speeding by, with GCSE’s, AS Levels and A levels now on our doorstep again. You might have already started to feel the effects of this over the Easter Holidays and already started to need the Parents Survival Guide To Exam Fever. Observing ...

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Happy International Day Of Happiness

Happy International Day Of Happiness Happiness comes in different guises for different people. Some are able to show it more easily then others, but the important point is knowing that we are happy within ourselves. My son told me a little story this morning. On Saturday w...

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Happy New Year – Setting The Scene

Happy New Year – Setting The SceneHopefully by now you have written some of your goals for 2015 and established a real vision for why these goals are so important to you.Excellent!Now we need to set your action plans so that you’re in a really strong position to ...

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Happy New Year

The end of the year is nearly upon us, before you know, it will be New Year’s Eve, the strike of Big Ben and promises for 2015 will be made. Vast amounts of people make wild New Year’s Resolutions claiming they are never going to drink alcohol or eat chocolate ag...

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Happiness

 Happiness is an important part of how we can manage our life to be more fulfilled and successful in achieving our desires.  Unfortunately when you are ‘just’, busy getting on, there is always someone who is going to say;“Cheer up, it might never happen.”Or“Y...

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Stress: Which do you want, the control or to be controlled?

Stress – Which do you want, the control or to be controlled?Stress, distress, anxiety, tension, pressure, we all call it different things but they are all closely related. As a life coach and teacher of Developing Effective Thinking Skills, I listen to people talk about th...

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And So We Arrived

And So We ArrivedIllustration By Jess LloydAs we finished packing the van for a weekend of camping in the middle of Shropshire for the final of No.1 Sons riding event.  Watching the rain coming down we decided to leave the house in wellies.  However, much to our pleasure t...

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A Walk in the Park

A Walk in the ParkIllustration by Vanessa Bell This summer has been a big emotional roller coaster as it has been ‘A’ Level results time as well as GCSE results.  I thought it was nerve racking enough when I went to collect my own results all those years ago; but I...

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The Family Who Took The Crown Jewels On Holiday

The Family Who Took The Crown Jewels On HolidayIllustration by Vanessa BellWhilst driving very sedately along the A6B around Paris, with two Sat Nav’s finally working in agreement and with me following on the map, brought back great memories of my first and last family hol...

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A Mother’s 18 ½ Year Reign

A Mother’s 18 ½ Year ReignIllustration by Vanessa BellLooking back over my 18 ½ year mothering reign, I have fantastic memories.  Like most parents of these ‘First Times’ experiences fill you with wonder, pride and some of the most frightening times of your life.  ...

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Have You Got Your Passport?

Illustration by Vanessa BellHave You Got Your Passport?Good parents bring us up to be honest and law abiding citizens saying,“Honesty is the best policy.”  However, if you can be truthful with yourself , can you say you are totally honest?  Not me that’s for sure.Don...

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My Thoughts on Trust

Illustration by Vanessa BellMy Thoughts on TrustI haven’t really thought too much about the meaning of trust until it came up in a class I was teaching recently.  Some of the learners where stating:“You can’t trust anyone.”“They will bleed you dry of your ideas, t...

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Floods and High Tidal Waters

Illustration by Vanessa BellFloods and High Tidal WatersIf you have been following the ‘Top 10 Tips on How to Survive the Uni. Tour With Your Daughter’ then you will probably be at the same stage as we are in our household with UCAS applications in, offers being given, i...

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Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say.

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say. You must admit that ‘People Watching’ is a fantastic pastime when you’ve got time on your hands to chill - the sun on your face and the right drink at your fingerprints.The other great pass time is listening into other people’...

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A Tidy Mind

A Tidy Mind What sort of a mind do you have? Mr Hoff says I have “a chaotic mind, all over the place it is”, unlike his which is pristine, everything in order, filed away with labels on the fronts of the filing cabinet draws.  That’s why he has to ha...

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The Sat Nav Lover

Are you a Sat Nav. lover or a Sat Nav. hater?Some people will let their life be ruled by their Sat. Nav. for one; Mr Hoff.I have tried desperately hard to resist the temptation and so far haven’t done too badly but I must admit there are times when they can most useful.  ...

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Change – Help!

Change – Help!Change!Something different!OH NO!I’m as guilty as the next person when it comes to battling with the negative chatter in my head when something different comes along.  With all the best of intensions, even though we thought we had worked out the issues we ...

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Top 10 Tips on How to Survive the Uni. Tour With Your Daughter

Top 10 Tips on How to Survive the Uni. Tour With Your Daughter.  Forget the tennis, golf or Tour de France, touring the Universities ready for your daughter’s UCAS application can be far more gruelling and stressful.  You will have already waded through a metre high pile...

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The Pyjama Game

The Pyjama GameI’m sure I’m not the only one who, when receiving sad news about a death, spend time rationalizing the information;They were poorly for a long time,OrIt must be a relief for the familyOrHe was a lovely man and very kind to us.At other times, it isn’t unt...

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Mother’s Are Only Human Too

Mother’s Are Only Human TooWhen was the last time you felt racked with guilt because you hadn’t taken enough time or trouble over something that wouldn’t have actually taken you much effort or time.Mine was not so long ago.  In fact it was on the 5th March 2012.  My ...

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A Mother’s Worst Fears Come True.

A Mother’s Worst Fears Come True.I’ve been teaching parenting courses for several years now and one of the questions I ask my prospective learners is;“What do you fear most about your children growing up?”Over the years I have pondered this more than several times. I...

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The World’s Luckiest Mother.

The World’s Luckiest Mother.A week or so before Mother’s Day my No.1 Daughter asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day.  My eyes lit up.  This was obviously my chance to ask for all my dreams; the expensive handbag, the holiday in the Bahamas I’ve been wantingfor ye...

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Time Flies

Time Flies When I was little I always remember my Grandma saying, “I don’t know where the time goes it just flies by and the time goes by more quickly each year.”  At the time I didn’t have a clue what she was on about but she was absolutely right it does.  By the ...

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Unwanted Baggage.

Unwanted Baggage.There is good and bad baggage and we are all going to have different ways of looking at it.  For me, great baggage is equal to great memories, fun times, holidays, great feelings of calmness, love, happiness, and contentment but also some feelings of sadnes...

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Christmas Time, Mistletoe and Wine.

Christmas Time, Mistletoeand Wine. Christmas is a funny old time of year.  As with most religious festivals, the majority of us have forgotten what the festival is truly about and now see it as a time to spend with the family; giving presents, eating and drinking.  Oh, an...

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One Huge Balancing Act

One Huge Balancing ActFinding the right balancing act that suits everyone can be difficult especially when you have young children.  When I became pregnant for the first time myhandmade ceramics living had come to natural end; my imagination had dried up, a bit like writers...

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Pets Are For Life Not Just For Christmas.

Pets Are For Life Not Just For ChristmasFor those of you who aren’t animal lovers it must be hard to understand the complexities of love andcontentment people get from their pets.As a child I was never allowed a dog but I was allowed hamsters and rabbits.  However, I thin...

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A Teenager or an Alien

A Teenager or an Alien(Just Another Strange Mother)When I heard parents of teenagers saying their kids had turned into aliens I never really understood what thatmeant.  That was never going to happen to me! As I became a parent, like most of us, I had over confident expecta...

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The Trials of Holiday Preparations

The Trials of Holiday PreparationThe main holiday period is up-on us. The children are breaking up from school and the annual holiday is what everyone is talking about; at the gym, the hairdressers and at work.I don’t know about you but the preparations can be a little bit...

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Overcoming Conflict

We have all experienced conflict with others – our partners, siblings, friends, children, parents, in-laws (or outlaws as my other half calls them), the list could be endless.  Some will say their relationship thrives on this, but I’m not so sure.  The majority of us d...

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Exam Fever – Who has it the parents or the teenagers?

Exam Fever – Who has it the parents or the teenagers?We are now half way through the exams.  How are you bearing up?Over the Easter holidays my daughter was told she should be revising six hours a day for ten days.  How realistic is this?  Yes, in the ideal world with t...

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Is Breast Best?

Is Breast Best?When preparing for the birth of your baby there are so many things to think about and so many questions to be answered;Do you want a boy or a girl?Is your birth plan ready?What colour will the nursery be?What about names?As well as keeping a check on your weig...

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Battles with the Tantrum

Battles with the TantrumAs your children rapidly grow into teenagers you quickly forget the difficulties you experienced managing a 3 year olds tantrums.  I was thrust back into this over the Easter period when visiting family. A wonderful happy thoughtful child can turn in...

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Save our NHS – Look After Our Nurses

Save our NHS – Look After Our Nurses It isn’t until you really need these services that you really think about how important they are to you and your family.  Only after recently having a few days bed and board in my local hospital, did it strike me how hard the nursin...

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Setting The Table For The Family

Setting The Table For The FamilyIt is well known that the influence of the TV, as well as shift patterns, has made it more difficult for families to sit together for meals at the dinner table.  It is all too easy to grab a snack and happily munch away on the sofa or the flo...

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Making Bad Days Into Good Days.

Making Bad Days Into Good Days. We’ve all had them haven’t we, really bad days when everything seems to have gone wrong? It can make you feel really tense with your shoulders feeling all crunched up, miserable and irritable with everyone even though they might not have ...

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You’ve Got The Love

You’ve Got The LoveCongratulations to Doutzen Kroes and her husband Sunnery James on the birth of their baby boy a few weeks ago.“We’re in love with him! Can’t describe this feeling!” Sunnery James is reportedly tweeting by the BBC.I think the birth of a baby is fa...

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